My son has no interest in science and maths, though I’d love to see him become a professional engineer or a scientist. He likes to draw and sketch and is mad about music. How do I convince him that drawing and music can only be leisure pursuits? — F.R, Delhi
It’s perfectly normal for some children to be averse to STEM (science, technology, engineering and math) subjects. You need to take a look at today’s media headlines. Professionals exist in a multiplying number of fields, from education to music. Your child can achieve great things without science and maths, though he needs to give these compulsory subjects his best shot. Explore alternative career paths with your son, to discover what suits his aptitude and interest. Today professionals excel in all types of vocations, from astrophysics to pet care.
Becoming a successful professional in any vocation is about passion, commitment, and interest in a chosen specialisation. It’s entirely possible your son could become a celebrated music composer, or music teacher. Or he might evolve into a great graphic designer or animation expert. Parents need to encourage all hobbies and passions of their children, as well as favourite subjects in school. Children need help to realise their potential. You would be a great enabling parent if you can help your son identify appropriate study programmes and career paths which suit his personality and interests.
What if the globally celebrated musician-composer A.R. Rahman had been pushed into becoming a mediocre engineer? The lives of millions of talented children are blighted by parents with common academic expectations. Here are some suggestions to ensure that you don’t crush your child’s dreams and talents.
1. Don’t proscribe hobby-related activities like dance classes, music programmes and sport during standards X and XII. By all means, reduce the time spent on extra-curricular activities during exams, but don’t forbid them altogether.
2. Shed the belief that academic study and exams are more important than anything else.
3. Encourage children to devote time, effort and dedication into anything they are passionate about. Make sure your child learns as much about her preferred field as possible, and also develops skills in her chosen co-curricular or extra-circular activities.